Is unforgiveness something you've been grappling with all this while? We may meet some people from our workplaces who just simply don't understand the meaning of irritating and obnoxious. Perhaps some of their actions have made us feel extremely angry or even hurt. They may have done it deliberately or unconsciously, but it still doesn't change the fact that they are simply some people on earth who either like to inflict hurt on other people and who take pleasure from others' pain (hedonistic, lol) or who does it without knowing that innocent actions on their part might hurt others around them. In whichever way it is, we cannot deny that we must have had some thoughts of unforgiveness and even ideas of taking revenge all these years in which we're living and interacting with people. We may not realise it, but constant feelings of unforgiveness can eat away slowly at our heart, preventing us from living our lives as we want. Should we want to proceed in our lives, we should not have any baggage pulling us back, and unforgiveness can be that obstacle which prevents us from going about our activites without anything hanging on our minds, eating away at our conscious. It can give us sleepless nights and cause us unnecessary stress. It can make us harbour thoughts of taking revenge on that particular person who always seem to make your life hell, or to a lesser extent, miserable. Well, whichever case, having unforgiveness in your heart is defintely not the kind of situation you want to be found in as it can be very time consuming as our mind revolves around the many unsolved issues we might have and it can cause us to be a negative person also. yeah and it won't be a nice sight if we walk around with a permanent black cloud following us around which threatens to rain on us every few minutes.

God created us not because He is a sadistic god who likes to see His own creations fight among themselves and try to kill each other off. He certainly does not want to see disharmony among family members and friends. God is just God as He is. He is willing to lay down His life for us, (although He wun ever die simply because He's God) because of the simple fact which many do not get it - He loves us. And that kind of love can only be found from God, you won't ever find it from a relationship with your other half, not even your parents. When we're faced with this perfect love, this amazing love which lasts forever, which is unconditional and which is selfless, forgiving someone seems easy. God's love can diminish all unforgiveness and all hatred, no matter how deep they are. But the tricky part is accepting His love for us. It is hard to acknowledge something which we can't even see. It's harder to believe in something which we can't see. But when we truly understand the extent of His love for us, His love would suffice, even at the moments when we feel most down. When we tell ourselves,"There is a god who is willing to lay down His life for such an unworthy me." Things would work out eventually and we would begin to even extend that same love, albeit it being on a smaller scale, to others, the people around us.

While we're facing unforgiveness towards someone, we could not come into terms with the fact that that person did something wrong, which we find simply unforgivable, which we
refuse to forgive because of our pride, because we often think," He/she is the one who did me unjustice in the first place so why should i forgive him/her?" Well, then going by your logic, God would have abandoned us already and just created a huge natural disaster or spread an epidemic to kill us all, because of all the atrocities we did and the blasphemous acts we did against Him. However, because of the grace which He had for us, He did not do so. In fact, He forgave us. Even in the face of excruciating pain, both physical and emotional, Jesus told His Heavenly Father,"Forgive them for they not know what're they doing." A heart as wide as His and grace as abundant as He has, for us who did such unpardonable acts, what else could we not forgive? Which act of our family members or our friends are simply that unforgivable that we harbour it in our hearts always, never willing to let it go? If the most major atrocities could be forgiven, whichever wrong doings could not be forgiven? We just have to come to terms with ourselves, maybe just as a last act pf spitefulness, tell ourselves that that person who did us unjustice does not deserve the time which we spent agonising on them, then simply know that the love of God is enough to fill our hearts with warmth and rid us of any remaining, stubborn feelings of unforgiveness.